tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post9119803476057320631..comments2024-03-20T20:37:14.527-05:00Comments on Blondie's Journal: MARRIAGE: THE NEW & THE OLDBlondie's Journalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12988377413260331618noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-21670132206677067512010-05-07T15:33:27.856-05:002010-05-07T15:33:27.856-05:00Of course I know what you mean, Janie! We celebra...Of course I know what you mean, Janie! We celebrated our anniversary last Friday. I was 17 which was way too young but it worked for me and here we are all these years later. And yes I've almost killed him a few times and sometimes falling in a hole really revitalizes a marriage!!! I love your journal...have I ever told you that? xoxo NancyNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16360786316003275471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-32412456636632667072010-05-06T20:35:56.498-05:002010-05-06T20:35:56.498-05:00It's part of life, Jane!
DH will be arguing ...It's part of life, Jane! <br />DH will be arguing for 40 yrs next Sunday..who knew?<br />So many really hard times, serious health issues.<br />But God was with us, and we will just go along arguing, and laughing! It works!<br />Happy Mother's Day dear girl!Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323768335143979148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-29497198798428063162010-05-05T13:05:57.832-05:002010-05-05T13:05:57.832-05:00Oh Jane, I can soooooooo relate to this conversati...Oh Jane, I can soooooooo relate to this conversation you're having with all of us. :-)<br />Its just part of marriage. Lots of "Compromise"<br />Just wait till he retires...oh boy! Whole new set of circumstances to get used to. <br /><br />I hope you have a wonderful trip to LA. Try to see the aquarium, esp. the shark tank. Really awesome!Rettabughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09974677657528087286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-33055971175398517732010-05-05T12:26:50.229-05:002010-05-05T12:26:50.229-05:00Jane,
I want to thank you for the kind words you ...Jane, <br />I want to thank you for the kind words you left me about my bipolar disorder. I really appreciate the understanding and compassion. I am sorry to hear that your hubby did not comfort you at your fall. Sometimes we need our knights in shining armour.... I have a funny story.... about 4 years ago or so... we were remodeling our dining room, we had put a whole in the floor for a register... and I backed up into it and fell down to my knee .. Thank goodness, hubby was in the room, otherwise I would have been stuck there for quite sometime. I surrived and we retrieved my shoe from the basement. ha! can you picture me ... half way through the floor ...just like in those comedies. I hope you and your dear one sort out your differences. Blessings and hugs<br />GwenGwendolynKayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07847305862839809298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-11367881962924123952010-05-05T11:33:10.286-05:002010-05-05T11:33:10.286-05:00You know I am doing just that now...who shall I be...You know I am doing just that now...who shall I be? Where should we work? Where should we live? Three weeks of me time while my husband is in Taiwan. <br /><br />And, for us too, working together just doesn't seem to occur to my husband. Although, I will say, as the ONE who looks for houses (zip codes), finds the bargains there, and presents them for a profit (hopefully), if he had allowed me to paint along side him, we would not have had a case for pricing on our house for sale. It was an unfinished house and I didn't know it when we purchased. With this info, we may ultimately be okay. As I told him, "working TOGETHER can pay off". In our case, literally. <br /><br />I would say this is the biggest thing in our marriage that makes me crazy and actually hurts. I hope my husband has a take away from the painting project.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06522725338783631084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-84263988636169837692010-05-05T10:08:37.190-05:002010-05-05T10:08:37.190-05:00Thanks for a reality post. My hubs and I were lau...Thanks for a reality post. My hubs and I were laughing the other day b/c we stumbled upon a youtube clip where the guy was talking about this very subject. He said he wanted to tell the young engaged couple who was in lala land "it's not what you think it is. I'm not saying it's bad, it's just not what you think it is." Unfortunately, the only way to learn that is to live it. But thank God for wisdom, experience and trips to New Orleans!Tammy @BeatriceBankshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08340198138320633828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-25907433190304313432010-05-05T10:07:14.496-05:002010-05-05T10:07:14.496-05:00Years ago a friend bought me a magnet for my refri...Years ago a friend bought me a magnet for my refrigerator that reads, "I want a man in my life, I just don't want him in my house." I guess I've lived by that motto; I've been married twice and combined they lasted about five years. Some of us just aren't the "marryin' kind" and that includes me.<br /><br />But, then I read on someone's blog about something a sweet, considerate husband did and I rethink my position. Thanks for bringing me back to reality, lol.<br /><br />Thanks for dropping in, I've missed you and your straightforwardness also. You don't pull any punches and that's why I love your blog and you too!<br /><br />I've been reading back, so I can catch up a bit. I love the open shelves at the lakehouse. My new kitchen didn't have enough cabinets to hold all my crap, I mean dishes, so I put two pine bookshelves in the eat-in area and must say, I really love the look. I've been shopping around for a china hutch and have seen several Hoosier cabinets. One was too long and the other was in very poor shape. The hunt continues! Yours looks like the perfect size for my space, so don't be alarmed if you hear noises in your house.Shellbellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14836629045327379085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-34002394397909078992010-05-05T06:54:56.645-05:002010-05-05T06:54:56.645-05:00Good Morning Jane,
The flowers in front of our hou...Good Morning Jane,<br />The flowers in front of our house are phlox. They were here when we moved in and quite established. They have gorgeous purple flowers about mid to late July. I am still fighting this nasty cold and looking forward to the day when I feel normal again. <br />Take Care and I hope you have a great day!<br />CindyCindy (Applestone Cottage)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03761029458170652533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-61567183399623038702010-05-04T23:05:59.887-05:002010-05-04T23:05:59.887-05:00If you want to experience the highs, there will be...If you want to experience the highs, there will be low points as well, we just work through it to the other side!<br /><br />Karena<br />Art by KarenaKarenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206642885608991170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-31712971153090185862010-05-04T23:01:45.009-05:002010-05-04T23:01:45.009-05:00Oh, I think if you have been married a number of y...Oh, I think if you have been married a number of years we have all been there.<br /><br />Thank you for the wonderful reminder of loving my husband through his foibles- because he is very good at loving me through mine! <br /><br />Hope your ankle is feeling better. And good for you... a trip to New Orleans! Now if that isn't love I don't know what is!<br />YvonneYvonne @ StoneGablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10071383858803336708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-12270574060929080752010-05-04T20:21:08.101-05:002010-05-04T20:21:08.101-05:00Jane,
I am sitting here trying to decide if i wan...Jane, <br />I am sitting here trying to decide if i want to confess or just pretend everything was, is and will be perfect. And without me saying anymore we all know the truth about marriage. I heard a minister once say that marriage was hard at its best, and that we had to work on it everyday, some days I want to other days I don't lol<br /><br />As always I enjoy anything you have written, thanks for stopping by and for taking the time to leave me a sweet comment. I love using my dishwasher when I am canning.<br />Enjoy the week, and New Orleans, and I hope your ankle heals soon.<br />Hugs,<br />SueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949983164111997270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-88044301675825850132010-05-04T20:16:22.468-05:002010-05-04T20:16:22.468-05:00I loved your honesty in this post. Thank you. If e...I loved your honesty in this post. Thank you. If everyone was honest about this we would all say we've had these feelings about our spouses - the anger and frustration. I've had them. I have a wonderful marriage, but there are times that it is rough and I get angry and dare I say it? resentful. If I fell like you did, I would be swearing to beat the band.<br /><br />Good for you for sharing so honestly.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16691249261693845371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-61020094906137943202010-05-04T19:42:37.497-05:002010-05-04T19:42:37.497-05:00You nailed this right to the 'T', my frien...You nailed this right to the 'T', my friend. I don't want to get started as I'll never shut up. Been there ...hope your injury is better now.<br />Hugs, MarydonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05697196986038110683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-58062741149079176602010-05-04T18:52:49.976-05:002010-05-04T18:52:49.976-05:00Hi Jane
Thanks so much for following me over to th...Hi Jane<br />Thanks so much for following me over to the "new" blog :-)& for writing your wonderfully honest posts ♥Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03254382654565513811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-16940929018380012932010-05-04T17:43:58.437-05:002010-05-04T17:43:58.437-05:00what a great post ... just the way it is in life. ...what a great post ... just the way it is in life. Marriage is not a bed of roses, that's for sure, but I don't think your bush incident is as big a deal as you said it used to be when you were young. A seasoned marriage can take these kind of things ... and then go on, realizing the commitment you have for each other, and the history you share together which I think is huge. The bushes and your house look really nice, by the way! Smiling for you,<br /><br />dotsiepodsohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14880888514207597761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-52944429387616855932010-05-04T17:04:07.953-05:002010-05-04T17:04:07.953-05:00not married either, but living with my partner, no...not married either, but living with my partner, not easy but as many in our situation we make it work because we believe it's worth it<br />Great postHelena - A Diary of Lovelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01665400359026944585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-3394463952619271462010-05-04T16:09:30.991-05:002010-05-04T16:09:30.991-05:00aww bless your heart.. It'll be ok, it'll ...aww bless your heart.. It'll be ok, it'll blow over and things will get back to normal.. <br /> I'm sitting here humming that old country song- Talkin' Bout MEN.. if you dont know it- google it on utube. Then next time theres a fuss- sing it to yourself. <br /> hugs<br />SonnySonny Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06926830309207639536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-2323729055179790762010-05-04T14:45:10.824-05:002010-05-04T14:45:10.824-05:00Oh honey, I am SO there with you. We just celebrat...Oh honey, I am SO there with you. We just celebrated our 17th on Sat. and it was indeed a time of reflection for both of us. How far we've come, how much we've overcome. It never gets easier, that's for sure. It takes work. Lots and lots of work. And prayer. We learned during the hardest of times how important it is to keep God at the center of our marriage. I've never mentioned this on my blog, but we went through the ultimate marriage trial if you know what I mean. We made it through wiser and stronger. I think the longer you're married the easier it becomes to accept eachother's quirks and faults. We don't take them so personally but accept them for what they are, a learned behavior that began long before we even met. That's why so many marriages end when they do - in the beginning. It's a learned habbit. Sorry for being so long-winded here. I guess your post struck a chord with me.<br />love ya sister!<br />KimKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08018277281094047746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-51918854548936792412010-05-04T13:28:05.587-05:002010-05-04T13:28:05.587-05:00dear jane,
i so appreciate your honesty and imagi...dear jane,<br /><br />i so appreciate your honesty and imagine<br />you have a very good, solid marriage.<br /><br />it has been my experience that the people<br />who never seem to have any trouble, often<br />have the worst problems.<br /><br />blessings,<br />leamyletterstoemilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555607498974287844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-59942479204280757822010-05-04T11:11:57.696-05:002010-05-04T11:11:57.696-05:00I was nodding my head the entire time I was readin...I was nodding my head the entire time I was reading your post. <br /><br />Have sheets with holes that need replacing? Yep. Towels. Ditto. <br /><br />When I was getting ready for the 70's Soiree I sweetly told Mr. Decor on the weekend before that he needed to get the yard cleaned up. (He refuses to pay anyone else.) I had enough with school, my internship, keeping the house running and cleaning it for guests. Not to mention the party prep on the food and decor. By Friday I was a total nut job as NOTHING had been done as he was working 10 hours days. I ended up having to hire the neighborhood kids (ages 9, 10) to pull weeds. <br />In the end I just had to let my level of standards go. <br /><br />Overall I am so thankful for my man. But some days... :)Decor To Adorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04359245078617786198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-55715232411172906962010-05-04T11:03:19.845-05:002010-05-04T11:03:19.845-05:00Oh dear, I have days like that too!Not very often ...Oh dear, I have days like that too!Not very often thankfully! Hope your poor ankle is feeling better soon! Hubby's just don't have the same priorities as we do some times!Bet you've made up now!<br />Sending you a hug!<br />Rachel xRubyredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248129968637620768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-86939018722748271462010-05-04T08:52:14.078-05:002010-05-04T08:52:14.078-05:00Of course I fit in to the I wish I would of catego...Of course I fit in to the I wish I would of category. <br /><br />I think if I had more foresight than hindsight, I would fair much better in all things!! LOL<br /><br />Blessings,<br /><br />Jo<br /><br />Take care of that ankle.My Grama's Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114089036939629527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-83579433965024600162010-05-04T08:01:49.163-05:002010-05-04T08:01:49.163-05:00UGH! I hate "those" situations. Some tim...UGH! I hate "those" situations. Some times they are the ones that linger and cause the most pain. Tell The Hubs your sorry. Even if you don't think you should. (oh I wish I could follow my own advice) Remember why you love him and tell him. If he's like mine he'll look at you like your crazy for a moment and then tell you he loves you too. Then call "Do overs"<br />Sometimes this actually works for us. :)<br />Have a great week! <br />~Liz <br />P.S. I tried to install your button but it is too big for my side bar... do you know how to fix that?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02972097935004547969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-47611615572643676882010-05-04T07:40:59.829-05:002010-05-04T07:40:59.829-05:00I have a quote taped on my fridge..."Life is ...I have a quote taped on my fridge..."Life is one damned thing after another"...doesn't that just sum it up sometimes?? Things will look up...take a little trip...get away and regroup. Sometimes we just need a little perspective. <br /><br />~mary~Urban Farmgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341683852251890090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702005723584006500.post-34671832899948650402010-05-04T07:00:02.076-05:002010-05-04T07:00:02.076-05:00This post struck my this morning and I recalled a ...This post struck my this morning and I recalled a comment someone made about my husband and I a few weeks ago. I struggle with our marriage - I think most do, but this comment made me feel like maybe I'm doing something right. Someone had mentioned my husband's first wife/wedding. Another person jumped in and said, "the first time Brian had a wedding, this time Brian has a marriage".Suzannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09305115475768268004noreply@blogger.com