Friday, March 21, 2014

CLOSE UPS


You learn a whole lot having kids.   And yes, mine are older than that a bit now but the "lingo" is still much the same, just in disguise.   Remember, "It's not all about you."?  Well, sheet!  They never read, "Looking Out For #1" back in the 70's!  And lately, "Get to the Point."  Suddenly these kids have very little time to hear a story/explanation/memory from beginning to end. My son has literally said that to me so that he can get back to whatever it is that he is so enticed by looking at his phone.  I do agree, I have to edit my part in conversations...the biggest evidence is here on my blog. 


summer when I lamented that getting the back yard looking good and thriving was something that I wished I had had a landscaper  do, there was so much cleaning up and heavy work.  I ended up doing it myself.  You can look back in my archives....September 2013.  I did a lot of brainstorming, heavy work and maintenance and yes, I was very, very proud.  I will reap the rewards forever.  But...the victim part.  I'm ashamed that I looked everywhere except at myself for help on this one.


 I may come off as a gal that has never had to deal with the hard knocks of life. I certainly don't feel that it's necessary to delve into the very numerous and extremely personal, painful and trying times I've experienced.  But I do stop and take notice of this "victim" thing.   Where does it get us to complain about this horrible winter?  Can we possibly make spring come any sooner?   I've never mentioned any of this but since January 1,  we've had to replace our water heater, washing machine and dryer.  The dishwasher decided it needed a bundle of repairs and it was no longer under warranty.  We lost part of our roof in the heavy winds this winter...our snow blower died and our garage door opener also decided to quit.  And before we knew any of this was going to take a toll on us, we had already ordered new furniture for the living room and there was no turning back.  Could I play victim?  Of course.  Do I want to?  No.  Maybe my kids opened my eyes, but I certainly see ( no pun intended) what they mean.  And I don't want to be that person.


to plant these seed heads, the beauty is worth the pain.  And the smiles will be limitless.


A close up of the jute embroidered curtains.  Was I lucky to find these?  They had my name on them as I had been so lost in finding what I liked.  I really am so happy with this room.  And yes, The Husband is happy, too.  He likes to give Emily the credit for her design talent, (I personally believe it was a half and half endeavor but this makes him happy.)  In any event, we are cozy and comfortable and I just want to thank all of you who weighed in and gave just the loveliest compliments. :)







Dinner was simple...baked ham, mashed potatoes, baked macaroni and cheese, corn,  tossed salad, toasted Ciabatti bread and great appetizers that disappeared!




It's late and I saved all of those pretty dishes to wash tomorrow!  Can't wait.  Have a wonderful weekend all of you...forgive me for my rant...(What's your point?).  Grrrrrr...

XO,
Jane

53 comments:

Linda said...

I open doors to cool things off so I can make a fire to warm things up!! Are we crazy??? NO.....
Being a victim or 'playing' a victim....interesting topic. I really did do this for many years. Not so much any more. But as we get older we know more how to evaluate what's important in the overall scheme of things and we don't lament over the things we used to. Sometimes it's just a matter of growing up......which WE have done and our children are still doing! Just saying....

Cindy (Applestone Cottage) said...

Hi Jane,
I am really going to try to get caught up with my blogging. I miss it! I simply adore your new curtains/drapes...they are just so perfect.
I have complained about winter this year, but boy it's been a tough one. Especially where we live. But I am optimistic for spring, even though it's not showing it's face much yet.
Oh and your tablescape is very pretty and the food sounds delicious!
Hugs friend,
Cindy

Kathy Moreland said...

Oh my, sometimes kids can be so infuriating! But, as you said, it's officially Spring! So we will focus on that!

Your dinner sounds delicious! I've had some "me" time for a week or so now, and haven't cooked! I could get accustomed to this!!

Anyway, here's to Spring!! And the curtains are very pretty!!

DREAMS ON 34th STREET ~ French Bread & Family said...

You are writing late...but how could you wait to share the lovely. Sometimes the kids don't understand our state of mind...
...we are here 24-7.
withLove!

Stacey said...

Having the windows open and burning the fireplace sounds wonderful to me.

Your victim subject is interesting. I must admit that there are some people who make that their theme in life and it makes me insane. Absolutely insane. I will also admit that I've fussed about this winter and I live in Texas not Chicago!!

Your drapes are gorgeous! I love the embroidery and is that fabric linen? So pretty. :)

Happy Friday Girl!

Theresa said...

Kids say the darndest things:) Loved the first day of Spring here! Your room is really gorgeous and I ADORE those curtains! Enjoy your day dear friend, HUGS!

JoAnne Weisser said...

Your table looks so pretty, Jane, and I would really like to have one of those cupcakes - yum! I think we all fall into the trap of complaining and forget about all that we have to be thankful for although sometimes we just need to get things off of our chest, right? As I was reading your post, my kids were in the next room with their phones so I texted both of them to tell them to finish getting ready for school - they didn't really see the humor in it! : )

Rita C. said...

My husband often says, 'what's your point?' grrr...I call it his deposition mode...just answer the question....

Details - all so nice, what a way to ring in spring. But I'd be really careful about choosing those thistle...even the stems are spiny - and hurt! Just a thought....maybe google images of and consider Rozanne geranium (perennial, zone 5 hardy), or balloon flower (perennial, zone 4 hardy) - both in shades of blue. I've grown both (and thistle by accident).

Happy spring, Jane! Looking forward to seeing your garden grow!
Rita

Julie Marie said...

Hi Jane... happy Spring to you!... your tablescape is so pretty and as always your meal sounds delish. And I really love that little clock in the first photo... as for the victim thing, I don't think there is anything wrong with complaining about the long cold winter we have all had... folks have always talked about the weather, good or bad without thinking themself a victim... I always try to focus on the positive things in life and hope my blog comes across that way... can't wait to see your garden this year... hope things are greening up for you!... xoxo Julie Marie

Deb @ Frugal Little Bungalow said...

You are SO right about the temps and the sun. The last two days have been dreary / gloomy and while I think the temp went UP to about 45 degrees it did not feel nice & warm at all. But had the sun been out it would have felt like 60 degrees!

Those curtains are wonderful...glad to see the closeup and that you found what was just right.

And UGH YOUR SON SOUNDS JUST LIKE MINE ...they'd hit it off great as they texted each other and ignored all else in the room including their mothers. Well, FIRST they'd see what was to eat, or what was in the fridge...:) :) :)

Betsy Brock said...

lovely table and meal...and yes, I do agree with the editing, victim etc etc. and kids. haha... I have to watch myself all the time...so guilty of those! But sometimes I really am the victim! lol....

The calendar says spring but I don't think we're done with winter weather. It is, after all, still March!

Primitive Stars said...

Morning Jane, I like to do the same, fresh air but warm inside, loves me fires!!! Cold here still, but it is Spring at least......Love all your close ups, Blessings Francine.

Beth said...

Your table looks beautiful, Jane. Those dishes are pretty and the butter dish and s & P are adorable! I like the tone to your blog - it's friendly and positive. I can tell you are a glass half full girl. I think you love and adore your family and truly enjoy life. Oh yes, you are quite a decorator too! Looking forward to seeing your garden this spring. Have a great weekend, Jane.
Hugs, Beth

Vicki @ lifeinmyemptynest said...

When I start to play the victim it is my daughter who always calls me on it and snaps me back to reality. It's funny how adult children are not afraid to be honest, when others will hesitate. I think it shows how much they love us :-)

Vel Criste said...

We all feel 'victimized" at some point but the important thing, like your kids pointed out, is not to stay in that rut for a long time. Easier said than done, but really, no one can do you any good if You yourself don't initiate getting out of that slump right/! Anyway, love the details esp. the curtains and your setting is simply sweet dear Jane. Ok, so now, stop 'rambling" get out and start planting your blue flowers! ;-)

Bliss said...

No victim for me either, but I might get maniacal when my washer goes out. So do tell, how do you like the new set?

backroadjournal said...

Your table looks like a breath of spring. Now if only the weather would cooperate. :)

Levi Eslinger said...

Nice. It's good to know that you've got a lot of business taken cared of in your house, and that you seem to not be leaving any work or detail aside. And that you went ahead and secured yourself a new water heater. I'm sure that kind of stuff involved rigorous decision making and planning, looking for the right models, as well as studying the tech. So I wish you the best, and may your new appliance last you for the next few summers and winters.

Levi @ Capital Plumbing

Susie said...

Sweet Blondie, You can whine and complain if you like....we all do it. Some times it just helps to vent. After reading that list of...what more?...I would be bald, from tearing my hair.LOL I adored your table setting with the cute table scape. Sounds like a hardy meal too. Hope you have a great weekend. xoxo,Susie

Laurie M said...

we all need a rant every now an then and that is what we your friends are for, to listen, you do such a great job of holing everything together, I think you must be the mill stone of your family, you are kind loving talented and sincere, and your home is beautiful, it is very much "you"

Debby said...

I don't think you were ranting nor do I feel you were playing the victim. I guess, because I get you.
The "get to the point" is something I hear from my husband. I sometimes just can't get to it. He knows that I don't think that him saying that is a good thing.
So glad you like your cozy room. Love your table. Your dinner doesn't sound simple at all.
It's a beautiful day here today but winter is coming back to pay us a visit. But it will end soon.....I am sure of that.
Have a wonderful week-end.
We have the memorial service tomorrow. Hoping that things get a little better after that. I spent most of today getting new clothes for my son. He is very large and it is so hard.....and he's short.
HUGS

Lisa @ Texas Decor said...

Your curtains are absolutely beautiful, Jane! I really, really like them! Good job! Such a pretty table setting too. And I know my hubby would love that whipped chocolate malt frosting! Enjoy your weekend, friend!

Lori said...

You are not ranting ~ you are sharing there is a difference!! I did not get a chance to comment on your room reveal ~ I love how everything came together! I am patiently waiting for Spring as well ~ soon I hope! xo

Wanda said...

I have to agree with your first comment from Linda. The older I get the less I feel the need be the victim. I had my time of that too with a husband in the ministry...busy, busy, four kids, working full time, pastor's wife..etc. But I somehow outgrew most of it.
You never stop parenting...adult kids can put a strain on my "rambling"....I guess the thing that bothers me the most, is a husband who is "solution" mode, when I just want to share something "without needing a solution" TeeHee.

I truly loved reading your "rant" as you called it...and found much truth and reflection in it.

You are a special gal, and I'm so glad I found you in blogland.

Sarah said...

Your table looks lovely and the menu sounds delicious. Love that you threw open the windows and doors. '-)
Hope you have a fab weekend!

Tammy@T's Daily Treasures said...

Ha-ha! You do make me smile. It's all too easy for some people to grumble their way through life and always feel that they are a victim, that they didn't get what they think should be coming to them, that what they have isn't enough. We all have problems, but we can choose to dwell on the negative or make it a habit to expound on the positive and I choose to do the latter. There is much bad in the world and unfortunately that's what the media and some people tend to harp on. But there is a lot of good and there is much to be grateful for. Why are we here if we can't appreciate everything around us? I steer clear from complainers now. It's okay sometimes to vent your frustrations and clear your system of negative vibes. But beyond that, be happy, be grateful, be kind. That's my motto!

Dinner looks like it was a lovely occasion. Always nice to go out just a little bit extra for those we love. Have a fabulous weekend. Tammy

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The Quintessential Magpie said...

Janie, I love your tablescape, and I am craving a cupcake, even before breakfast! Malt frosting? Yum!

That is a lot to deal with from the roof to the appliances. I thought the garage door was broken yesterday, and between between my DH and me, we fixed it somehow. But I can identify. I had to replace ALL of the fire alarms upstairs along with other things that decided to break and landscaping issues, thanks to someone not doing their job, but it will all work out. It is not someone's family member in critical condition, etc. it is a minor annoyance! That is what I tell myself.

As to the young people, all of this rushing around is going to bite them on the seat like an alligator when people they love aren't there one day, and they long to hear their voice on the phone or their stories. I was that same busy, busy young person once. ;-)

xo

Sheila

podso said...

Technology has probably caused all of us to have a shorter attention span and want to get to the point, but maybe us older ones don't say it bluntly. I am so sorry for all your appliance woes. Seems like when it rains it pours in that area of life. Your table looks so pretty and I know you are happy for the sunshine. We're having a beautiful Saturday but more winter next week, or so they predict right now--yes they mentioned snow.

Melanie said...

Your tablescape is beautiful...love the details on your curtains, too. Have a great weekend!

Balisha said...

I often take too much time when I am talking to someone...then I see that dull look on their faces. I used to go ahead and tell the rest very fast, but now that I'm older, I just say, "You aren't the least bit interested in what I'm saying...are you?" That shocks them at first and puts it right out there. Then I go on and finish my part of the conversation.....without so much detail.These days of electronic gadgets make conversation difficult...they talk too fast and no one wants to take the time to listen.They are missing so much.
I love the embroidered curtains, by the way.
Balisha

June said...

First Jane, I came over to say how awesome you are to me and how grateful I am to you for your sweet words you left about me on Kris' (junk Chic Cottage)blog. I don't think you could ever know how I appreciate you leaving them for me to read. That's one of the things I love the most about you, is always taking the time to make someone feel good and happy about themselves. The other thing I love the most about you is the wisdom you have and share with us here on your own blog. I love reading your posts! I so identified with how our children know just the thing to say to us that makes us step back and go---whoa! They are so right. Don't you hate it sometimes :)))))?
I think if it wasn't for the reality checks they give me I just might have been a different person. Gosh...though...do they have to do it so darn often :) There's a lot of wisdom in this great post Jane and I appreciate you so much for it.
I am IN LOVE your your new living room girl! BEAUTIFUL!!!
sending love your way...

Kit said...

What a lovely table! And your menu has me getting hungry. Sounds wonderful! Kit

Liz Hockamier said...

:) We all need a good rant now and then. Yours was a nice reminder.
Love your pretty pictures. I'm going to check out your room reveal. :)
Hope you are enjoying this first weekend of spring! :)

~Liz

Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams said...

Jane, you never rant, nor are you playing the victim. Your kids are merely growing up, soon they will return to paying more attention to your stories...as long as the cell phones are recharging...lol.

I like the part about why are we complaining about winter...that's so true, but then again, isn't it human nature to complain? And if we don't talk about the weather what else will we say.

Those cupcakes look so tempting, good for you but how did you manage not to eat them.

Jen

Sonia said...

Jane, Always love my visits to your blog...funny stuff mixed with reality and pretty stuff to look at too! I think we can all relate to being a victim at times. Your tablescape is so very pretty ....love all the sweet bird accessories and the napkin rings. I went back and looked at your last post...how could I have missed the reveal of your living room? Anyway it turned out so beautifully and I love the light brightness of the room and the new furniture! Thanks for your sweet visit and very kind comments! Happy Spring! P.S. I'm not a natural blonde...just trying to cover the gray....shhhh!
Miss Bloomers

Nancy's Notes said...

Jane, oh kids!!! I had a number of chuckles reading your blog on this early and dark-thirty morning! Your tablespace is just so pretty and your menu sounds like it was just scrumptious! Love your curtains too, oh so pretty! Have a great day!
Nancy

At Home in English Valley said...

Hi Jane, It's refreshing to hear what's on your mind and in your heart. Why else would so many be stopping by to hear what you have to say...because it resonates in our lives too. Life is not always easy, but finding joy in the everyday makes it a worthwhile. Thanks for sharing. Love, Penny

Ocean Breezes and Country Sneezes said...

Hi Jane, whine away, it's your blog! LOL! I too am thrilled it's finally spring. We still have a lot of snow, more snow on the way, I don't think will actually see the ground until April. Your tablesetting looks beautiful. Have a wonderful Sunday, and a wonderful week.

Art and Sand said...

The table looks great . . . the cupcakes look delicious . . . and I love those curtains.

I hope your string of bad luck is over and spring will be bright and sunny for you.

Junkchiccottage said...

Jane,
You have really had a string of bad luck with your appliances. Here is wishing for better days ahead and hopefully we will be seeing some kind of Spring here where we live.
Kris

lynn said...

your new curtains are lovely, jane:) and your kids sound like mine! the table looks lovely, the food sounds yummy and i wish i had your willpower:) have a great week!

My Forever Changing Home said...

Jane, I just loved every word of this post. And that tablescape is gorgeous! And I'm glad the days are longer too. I hope you have a great week :)

Knitty said...

Good food for thought here. I don't see you as playing the victim and I certainly don't mean to sound like one either. I suppose it depends on who our audience is at the time of our comments.

For me, there is a huge difference in someone discussing (A) the foibles of appliances dying in groups (do they have a pact?) and the frustration that sometimes occurs with finding a suitable replacement and (B) someone who sounds like they are the only one who has experienced such a terrible tragedy and goes on for days about this.

The first is conversational chitchat, the second is rather narcissistic. I have an internet friend who sometimes sounds like that but I know her social circle is very small, I suspect partly because of this habit. It is easy for me to read, (sometimes skim) and only comment lightly the first time something is mentioned but wouldn't be as easy if we were face to face.

Our kids, as teens and young adults can be so fast tracked with acquiring knowledge, money (meaning how they work), and networking friendships that they don't think anything more than three sentences or 140 characters long is worth their time. We were probably like that too, but not to the extent of the continuous plugged in era of our kids.

As for surviving this winter, we all deserve a medal, a rebate, a hug and a cookie. Maybe two!

Kathleen Grace said...

Well alright, I have to admit I'm a bit of a whiner sometimes too. How do we get to this age and just now start to hear ourselves? Maybe we were too focused on the kids all those years? Hahaha, at any rate, I'm trying to stop with all the "poor me". It's never too late to improve.
Your tablescape was so beautiful and spring like. How did you not eat the mashed potatoes, cupcakes and mac and cheese? I would have totally caved.

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Doreen@househoneys said...

Just as Spring will surely come, so will this string of not so great things that have been happening in your life cease. Why is it things seem to happen at once? And why can't those 'things' be winning the lotto, George Clooney falling madly in love with us and losing 30 pounds without even trying? Is that too much to ask?

And yes, you can absolutely be realistic and optimistic!

Traci said...

That meal sounds sooooo good!!! I know what you mean about the victim thing. I try very hard not to complain & play the victim because I know how blessed I am. But I do REALLY hate all this crazy cold weather we've had. HA!

Tammy @ A Walk in the Countryside said...

We all need to rant and "left off steam" at times! I love the drapes you found! They are beautiful!

Pam - @diy Design Fanatic said...

You set a pretty table Jane..and the cupcakes look yummy! Your son sounds like me. I am forever telling my husband to "give me the short version". He talks more than I do any day of the week and hearing a long story on some days makes my brain tired. He does the same to me when I seem to save all my words up for the month and then let them all go at once!

Carol said...

Your table looks so pretty and fun for special family occasion. I think we all take our turn complaining, but not really intending to be "complainers," if you know what I mean. I think with bloggers, we get so comfy with the ones we know will always take a look at what we post, that it's kind of like we are having a personal conversation with them over coffee in our kitchen. I know I will no doubt get my "whine" on before long about our heat. I will try not to dwell on it; but if you are having coffee or iced tea in my kitchen, you will probably hear about it!

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